Around Halloween or Holy Week, superstitions will likely be part of talk. But even around weddings throughout the year, there are a lot of superstitions. Sometimes, they border on the ridiculous, despite being practiced for centuries. But we need to debunk these superstitions, because they can ruin your wedding experience.
1. Bride and groom should never see each other before wedding for a certain time – The reason for this is that it was to ensure that the groom won’t change his mind. This probably came from cultures where marriages were arranged, so they really had a reason to keep the bride and groom from seeing each other. That would also mean this superstition or tradition is meaningless, because marriages are decided upon by the couple themselves.
2. It is bad luck to drop the ring – Because if you did, you might die. Common sense already tells you this will never happen... unless the ring was a bomb the explodes or is filled with poison... oh come on, you know better.
3. Yellow roses may cause jealousy – This came from a Victorian-era book, The Language of Flowers, where yellow flowers were associated with jealousy. Today, we choose them because they are part of a color scheme or theme, not because of a Victorian book’s interpretations. Give your own meaning to the flowers if you want to.
4. Avoid marrying on an unlucky day, such as Friday the 13th, in May or on Saturday – Saturday was considered an unlucky day in Old English folklore. So was Friday the 13th. May was the time the month the Romans commemorated their dead, so it was best that weddings not be held at the same time. It’s different today, so we need to follow our own way.
5. The groom must carry the bride over the threshold – If you’ve seen grooms carrying brides after the wedding, this came from the Romans, who believed that the bride must be carried away from evil spirits. These days, the only evil spirits are in our heads, so we’d better exorcise them and have good attitudes towards our weddings.
Take note that all these traditions are about luck. But isn’t that an contradiction? Luck is luck, it’s all about something you can’t control, but you’re trying to control. Instead, think about how you can react to luck, or to whatever happens. That’s the better mindset, so you are freed from the illusion of control, and you become more free in how you react to any situation. You can apply this lesson to any part of life, too.